This is my third year of surviving my A to Z Blogger’s Challenge, but this year was quite multifaceted. I did not think I would survive the Challenge because of my husband’s illness, and our decision to move. Yet, what I discovered is that because of my focus on the subject of caregiving my thoughts came more readily than in years past. Initially, since my husband’s illness broad-sided me, I gushed emotion. My feelings spilled out all over the place.
However, eventually my brain and my heart communicated as I realized that my friends and readers might want to know what I was undergoing, how my husband and I were functioning together, and the results from our experiences. Sooner or later my posts showed the positive side of my husband’s and my actions and not just the sad and frustrating aspects of caregiving. Today’s quote on my calendar shares a good overview of my experience: “Nothing WORTH HAVING comes easy.”
Caregiving for family is NOT easy as besides the duties associated with caregiving, you have the emotions connected with your relationship… for whatever it is worth. Caregiving for someone you don’t know or have a relationship with would not bare the extreme emotional aspect that I experienced with my husband. Even, when I helped care for my mother the dynamics were quite emotional as we had a long line of baggage we had not dealt with in my growing up years.
Since my brief overview of caregiving for the Challenge, I have run into friends who are also caregiving for family. They appreciated my being open about how emotional and challenging caregiving can be for family. These people had assumed that taking on the project of caregiving for their loved ones would be easy. SURPRISE!
So the words of wisdom for your caregiving project is to “Give yourself oxygen first, before you try to care for another person!” Thanks to the many people who supported me in the Challenge as I truly appreciate your support… I NEEDED it! I SURVIVED!