The joy of social media is the ability to post current pictures, as well as pictures of the past, of us and our families, where our friends and strangers can enjoy them. What I find interesting is that frequently on Facebook, people don’t post pictures of themselves on their header. They post pictures of their pets, or friends, or flora and fauna, or other family members. So WHO is the real person listed and what the heck do they really look like? It is one thing if you are a family member and know that the person listed is your mother or grandmother. What if you are friends of the family and don’t specifically know the person you are about to become friends with on their site? How do you identify them? What we don’t have on Facebook is the ability to label what is current and what is history.
In my case, a long-time friend posted pictures of me in my 20s on my Facebook page. Of course, in my mind, I STILL look like me in my 20s. Ok, so I’m delusional. My Facebook header is the real and current me, but the majority of my pictures in my album show me from long ago. So… WHO is the real me? Is this an illusion?
You also must note that I am listed in LinkedIn and receive a variety of requests from people to become “friends” with me on a professional basis. I’m happy to partner with a variety of interesting people. So one day on Facebook I received a “friend” request from a very nice looking young man. Since I’m friends with my children, and friends of my children, I thought this young man must be one of my kids’ friends so I agreed to be “friends” with him. Shortly after I accepted this young Greek man’s friendship request I received a lovely note from him. He stated that he thought I was quite good looking. Then he politely asked if I was married or not, as he was interested in dating me.
Now this young man must be really desperate to date someone, that he would search Facebook for a date. Not only has he NOT met the real live me, but dating would have been a hassle as he lived in the mid-west and I live on the west coast. A long distance dating relationship would make getting to know one another quite a trial. Yet, I noticed that apparently the young man was involved with enormous construction projects that had him traveling what appeared to be world-wide, so maybe dating me wouldn’t be so difficult after all. Yet, he was about to be surprised!
Ah-Ha… so the reason this man wanted to befriend me was he was desperate for a date! Boy was he in for a shock! I was chuckling as obviously he didn’t consider the fact that my header on Facebook is the REAL and current me. But who the heck knows? Consequently, I politely told him that I appreciated his request to date me, but that I am married; and oh, by the way, I happen to be 65. Shortly after I responded to him, I noticed that he “unfriended” me on Facebook. Oh darn! There go my delusions!
Have any of you had any fun or interesting situations happen to you via social media? I would love to hear your experiences.