“Breathe. Know that the Internet has no eraser.” Liz Strauss
“Only on the Internet can a person be lonely and popular at the same time.” Allison Burnett, Undiscovered Gyrl
“WHY do I do this to myself?” Gwynn Rogers
Recently, a family member asked me to write about my feelings about blogging. So first I need to let you know that, my writing friends convinced me to give blogging a try as I was terrified of making myself known to the public. I don’t have a great deal of confidence in me or my writing, so if I told you I feel like I’m standing out in Times Square naked with millions of people staring and laughing at me, does that give you a clue of how I feel about blogging? But my writing friends have been very supportive and encouraged me to continue writing as they have left me lovely comments on my blog. So gradually I’m gaining confidence. I no longer feel that I’m replicating my worst nightmare of being exposed to thousands of strangers.
However, now as people are busy; or maybe it is because I’m a techno-idiot and don’t know how to set my blog up so people can follow me, I’m not hearing from as many people. Suddenly I feel like I have fallen into a black chasm of isolation… a huge void known as the “black hole of the internet.” I miss receiving comments… any comments. Also, I’m social. I love chatting with people, but more importantly you, my readers, give me valuable feedback, insight, and comments. You open my brain to ideas, angles, and food for thought. I crave your opinion and constructive remarks. Additionally, I enjoy meeting new people and learning what they write or do in life. Because of my blog, I have developed new friendships with other bloggers, and I love the camaraderie.
So suddenly I am craving people and life instead of fearing it. Now, the question remains… how do I convince you to read AND comment… not just sneak in and then creep back out of my blog?
You also need to understand my reasoning for writing the “grit” part of my stories… besides the assumption that I’m whining about life. I volunteer to help organizations that serve a variety of kids… homeless, incarcerated, as well as your happy and well-adjusted kids. As most of you know, life can throw a pretty good right-hook at us sometimes. I too have had my share of set-backs… I want to show that we CAN pick ourselves up after being knocked out, to be successful and happy in our lives. We can step beyond the pain. All we have to do is take that gigantic step into an unfamiliar direction, with support, to make our lives happy. Not all of us have had dramatically violent or unhappy lives, but subtle abuse can be just as devastating to a child. Because subtle abuse is more difficult to identify, then it takes more time to figure out what the real problem is that affects the child.
Writing has helped me identify my own issues and cleared the fog from my window so that I can get past the bumps and move on smoothly in my own life. I truly wish I had started writing years ago though. I honestly hope that maybe someone else will see the value in my writing, to encourage them to change or to help others. If nothing else… please leave a comment so we can discuss our points-of-view.
Oh, before I forget. WordPress has upgraded my software for my blog. Now you can go into the comment section and check a box that should notify you for further comments and posts. I hope. If nothing else, this will give you an excuse to reply to me as I would love to know that my blog is working correctly now.
I have gone from being shy to looking for more attention. I look forward to your valuable comments. How do you like blogging? Has it been effective for you personally or professionally?