“Life begins as a quest of the child for the man and ends as a journey by the man to rediscover the child.” Laurens Van der Post
“Our life is a long and arduous quest after Truth and the soul requires inward restfulness to attain its full height.” Mahatma Gandhi
Hey, have you ever forgotten to look both directions only to get run-over by life? Did you find out a family secret that maybe you were not wanted, then the light goes on…”Oh, that’s why I didn’t get along with my family.” Or you go through a surprise divorce, or your job isn’t going the way you had it planned. Or maybe all of the above, or worse, is going wrong with your life. At some point, you gain your equilibrium, plant your feet squarely on the ground only to say, “OK, WHY are these bad things happening to me, and WHAT can I do differently to make my life more enjoyable?” Then the quest begins… to figure out who you are and what you love.
For me, I had to do some soul searching. I looked at what I did wrong to actually determine if the problem was mine or not. In some cases, I learned about perinatal and pre-natal trauma. It is amazing how the trauma taking place in your mom’s life when she is pregnant with you can impact you in your growing up years. Gee, no wonder life wasn’t going my way when I was a baby… light dawns. So now it is time to take another step and move on with my life.
It is important to look at the good things we achieved and the things that didn’t go the way we wanted. Better yet, did your parents say, “You have to do “THIS,” when you didn’t think their choice of careers or schooling would work for you? Now you have the opportunity to change.
Have you ever stopped to list what you LOVE to do? Why not? You might be amazed at what you discover about yourself. Are you doing what you love? Remember that it is NEVER too late to start something new.
Do you know what type of learner you are… visual, hands-on, intellectual, technical? Are you a people-person or prefer to be solitary? Once you start looking at what you love and how best you learn… take the next step. Do something that you love.
One piece of advice that I loved is from the Celtic Treasure Chest regarding “Wandering.” They recommend “losing yourself in order to find yourself.” Take a different route than you usually take. The book even recommends doing something unpredictable like going to sit in a new café or park. Watch the people around you. You might meet a new person or learn something different… EXPLORE!
I love to talk with people so I walk the waterfront near my home to talk to tourists and residents walking their dogs or playing with their children. My ability to enjoy talking to strangers surprises me as I was always quiet and shy. Now, as I’m aging and exploring who I am, my shyness is disappearing. What a surprise.
Like the explorers of old, go wander through the thick underbrush of your life, you may be surprised at what you stumble across… a pot of gold!