“ When she cry’s, dry her eyes.
When she laughs, laugh with her not at her.
She smiles, smile back.
She’s in pain or upset, comfort her.
Most of all love your girl,
Or someone who deserves her will.”
“Remember the day we first
Started talking to each other?
Cause that’s what started you and I.”
How do you have a relationship AND be a caregiver to your husband? Suddenly the dynamics between two people seemingly change. I have gone from shared roles to me doing virtually everything as my husband no longer has the strength or the capability to do his usual duties. I feel like I have fallen into the role of mother and guide dog, making sure that he doesn’t hurt himself.
Even though my husband cannot help as in the past, I am hoping that with continued work on his part he will become healthier and stronger. Teamwork is critical here as neither one of us can do everything without the support of the other. I work at encouraging my husband to stay strong, to keep moving, and to keep his attitude up. He needs to believe that he can become healthy again.
Sometimes I feel like the car ran out of gas and I’m pushing it up a steep hill. Heck, it even picks up some speed as we reach level ground. I look forward to when we find the gas station and his motor kicks into full gear again. Yes, this has been back breaking work. I’m exhausted! I’m at a point where I’m ready for the downhill ride. But, somehow we will get through this trauma together.
What do you do to encourage your loved one to make it through his illness or trauma? What do you do for your health too!