“Transformation means replacing old values with new ones in the evolution of conscious life.” Kazimierz Dabrowski
“You don’t go through a deep personal transformation without some kind of dark night of the soul.” Sam Keen
“Growth and self-transformation cannot be delegated.” Lewis Mumford
Transformation defined means a “change in form, appearance, nature, or character.” When one develops a serious illness, sometimes transformation is necessary in order to get well. The question is will the patient, in this case, my husband, take the steps to change his life style in order to become healthy. My fear was that my husband would not transform himself.
Initially I needed to be very blunt with him. My first step was to point out what he had been doing wrong: not eating healthy food, not getting adequate exercise, and not developing a balanced life. The delightful news is that the doctor reiterated my words. My husband could stay the same or he could die. This was a “wake-up call” of great magnitude as my husband had never paid attention to what anyone suggested about his life. Heck, what do we know, RIGHT?
Since my husband passes out so easily, we have started him on a high protein diet. Plus, he is on medication to raise his blood pressure. Each step brought a teeny bit of improvement in my husband’s health. Thanks to the help of a friend and physical therapist, I convinced my husband to get his butt out the door and start walking every day. The exercise exhausts him, but he is actually walking. Heck, he even walks further and further little by little. He is learning to eat a healthier diet. He grumbles a bit, but he is eating healthy. Yes, he still needs to lose weight and develop some friendships, but he is learning to be politer to people he interacts with periodically. My husband is still weak. He can’t heal overnight but he is improving… a baby step at a time.
As traumatic as this situation has been to my husband and me, my gut tells me it is a good situation… a wake-up call so that his life will improve. He is not used to working with people. He is used to giving everyone orders… this too has to change. Slowly but surely, teeny step, by teeny step his life is transforming. He may actually learn how to live a healthy life and my life will improve in the process… Keep on, Keeping on!!