“A good neighbor is a fellow who smiles at you over the back fence, but doesn’t climb over it.” Arthur Baer
“ Love thy neighbor – but don’t pull down your hedge.” Benjamin Franklin
The dogs bark and bark and yap and bark. Hours later the dogs are finally quiet. Time and again these poor animals complain about being ignored. They are treated badly as they are not properly loved and trained. The noise trespasses around the neighborhood at all hours of the morning, day or night. Welcome to the new neighborhood!
Moving into a new neighborhood can be such an enlightening experience, as one never knows what we will walk into. From my childhood our neighbors had acreage so I remember people working together to help one another. I don’t remember wars between neighbors or issues over noisy animals. But now-a-days we are slammed so close to one another sometimes we have to deal with uncooperative people or people with a drinking problem.
Now, have you ever run into a situation with barking dogs and neighbors complaining? Does the problem escalate when the owner of the barking dogs does not take action to solve the problem as they are in too much of a stupor? Is your house next door to the problem? Do you let the trespass of the barking dogs increase to the point where other neighbors start throwing barbed comments back and forth at this neighbor… creating Trauma? Like the treachery of the supposed “picked on” neighbor finding ways to throw barbs back? “Oh YOUR dog pee’d in the street in front of my house.” Being the “middleman” you have a choice—you can avoid the confrontation or you can work to see that relations don’t totally evaporate. What can you do? Run like heck away from the situation or throw yourself into the middle? Particularly when we are one of the complaining neighbors.
Now in the event that barking animals may be abused, ignored, or mistreated do you work with the authorities? The problem then, is that the owner of the animals feels misjudged. My belief is that if the dogs could talk in English their story may correspond with the neighbors’ complaints. What do you do when the situation starts getting out of control?
Once you have reported the barking dog problem to the Humane Society, in theory, the Animal Control Officer takes charge right? Only this puts the Animal Control Officer in the middle of the neighbors’ interactions. The poor officer does not know if the neighbors are taking their frustrations out on one another or what the real dynamics are. Do we let the situation escalate without trying to rectify the dilemna immediately or let neighbors continue to do battle?
Do you document the activities between folks so that if officers become involved we are the ‘point of truth?’ Or do you stay clear of a possible nuclear explosion?
Learning to treat one another with respect is crucial. This way we don’t trespass on our neighbor’s figurative boundaries thus preventing the point where the situation expands to trauma. The hope is to avoid the treachery of games that people play if the one person would ONLY give up the beer. The desire is that TRUTH will win out and I don’t get flattened since I’m in the middle. PRAY FOR ME!!!!!