“Every difference of opinion is not a difference of principle.” Thomas Jefferson
“Opinion is power.” Thomas Jefferson
In the middle of the night, it came to me that if we are not given a voice as children, that sometimes we never learn to speak up for ourselves. Then as life passes by and we suddenly are seniors we realize the mistakes we have made and ANGER pops into the picture!
Besides not learning to speak up for ourselves, I had to realize that the mindset of years past, when I was growing up, was that women were not allowed to speak up. Our opinions were not considered valuable. Our fathers, husbands, brothers and other male relatives were in charge of our lives. Consequently, to this day, women still fight to be heard. Most importantly, we don’t value our own words and worth.
Discounting our value, after years of experiencing doubt, equates to shaking a bottle of soda pop, only to see it explode all over everywhere as we age. Frustration and anger rears its’ ugly head as a rattlesnake ready to strike. To realize or suddenly feel that we have lived an unfulfilled life drops us into a dark, dank, and very deep hole. So, how do we find a ladder to climb out of this mess we have fallen into?
The answer came to me as I looked at my quote for the day. “A flower does not think of competing with the next flower, it just blooms.” Sensei Oglu Hmmm, why didn’t I think of that? But now I have a way to grow out of my hole… you add enough fertilizer, water, and good dirt, and your plant will bloom.