Delusions or Illusions

24066_1305466670489_1045173431_30692148_7225967_nGwynn long ago24066_1304869135551_1045173431_30690372_6207972_nThe joy of social media is the ability to post current pictures, as well as pictures of the past, of us and our families, where our friends and strangers can enjoy them.  What I find interesting is that frequently on Facebook, people don’t post pictures of themselves on their header.  They post pictures of their pets, or friends, or flora and fauna, or other family members.  So WHO is the real person listed and what the heck do they really look like? It is one thing if you are a family member and know that the person listed is your mother or grandmother. What if you are friends of the family and don’t specifically know the person you are about to become friends with on their site?  How do you identify them?  What we don’t have on Facebook is the ability to label what is current and what is history.

In my case, a long-time friend posted pictures of me in my 20s on my Facebook page.  Of course, in my mind, I STILL look like me in my 20s.  Ok, so I’m delusional.  My Facebook header is the real and current me, but the majority of my pictures in my album show me from long ago.  So… WHO is the real me? Is this an illusion?

You also must note that I am listed in LinkedIn and receive a variety of requests from people to become “friends” with me on a professional basis.  I’m happy to partner with a variety of interesting people.  So one day on Facebook I received a “friend” request from a very nice looking young man.  Since I’m friends with my children, and friends of my children, I thought this young man must be one of my kids’ friends so I agreed to be “friends” with him.  Shortly after I accepted this young Greek man’s friendship request I received a lovely note from him.  He stated that he thought I was quite good looking.  Then he politely asked if I was married or not, as he was interested in dating me.

Now this young man must be really desperate to date someone, that he would search Facebook for a date.   Not only has he NOT met the real live me, but dating would have been a hassle as he lived in the mid-west and I live on the west coast.  A long distance dating relationship would make getting to know one another quite a trial.  Yet, I noticed that apparently the young man was involved with enormous construction projects that had him traveling what appeared to be world-wide, so maybe dating me wouldn’t be so difficult after all.  Yet, he was about to be surprised!

Ah-Ha… so the reason this man wanted to befriend me was he was desperate for a date! Boy was he in for a shock!  I was chuckling as obviously he didn’t consider the fact that my header on Facebook is the REAL and current me.  But who the heck knows?  Consequently, I politely told him that I appreciated his request to date me, but that I am married; and oh, by the way, I happen to be 65.  Shortly after I responded to him, I noticed that he “unfriended” me on Facebook.  Oh darn!  There go my delusions!

Have any of you had any fun or interesting situations happen to you via social media?  I would love to hear your experiences.


About Gwynn Rogers

After 20 years of sales and marketing experience in the fields of real estate, high tech, and corporate travel, Gwynn has moved on to the career of “Grandma.” When not teaching her granddaughters an extensive vocabulary of “alley-oop-boop, ups-a-daisy, cowabunga or bummer”, Gwynn can be found hunting for mentors for the Kitsap Youth Mentoring Consortium, or chasing her fantasies on her treadmill. Gwynn currently freelances for magazines.
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14 Responses to Delusions or Illusions

  1. Oh, Gwynn … best social-media story I’ve heard in some time. Mine aren’t as interesting, no dating requests, but only recently I’ve become more open about friendship requests. I ignored requests from people I didn’t know at all in the past. Came to realize, of course, that’s not how you build a network at all. Have to accept friends of friends as well. Live and learn.

    I laughed out loud while reading your story. And you look absolutely stunning, my friend.

    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      Now, I’m laughing! I “DID” look stunning… I guess. Anyway, once upon a time EONS ago when I weighed even less than in those pictures, I was interested in modeling. Now, my PT looks at me and says, “… and HOW LONG AGO WAS THAT!!!???” 😉 Hey, DON’T I STILL look like that??? 😉 See, I AM delusional!!

      Silvia, thanks for being a friend and laughing with me!

  2. Susan Scott says:

    This was a really fun story Gwynn thank you! Little did the bloke know what he missed!

    I once joined a site – I forget it’s name, and was deluged with requests for further info about me – which I didn’t supply. It was clear that there were intentions other than friendship or contact.

    I once inadvertently took a picture of me on my computer – not a cell phone selfie – I haven’t mastered the art of that. I pressed some buttons just playing with the computer and a pic was taken. Dreadful pic. Beyond awful. SOMEhow that got into a profile of me somewhere. For ages and ages I did not know how to remove it – I hope it’s gone.

    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      I’m laughing Susan, as I’m as non-technical as you. SOMEHOW, one of my 20’s pictures is NOW my screen saver on my computer and I don’t have the foggiest idea of how I did it! It was NOT intentional. However, now I look at my 20 something self day in and day out… No wonder I’m delusional!! 😉

      Thanks for laughing with me!

  3. val says:

    Oh Gwynn! Just what is so bad about looking at our younger self? It reminds us that we are all beautiful no matter what our so called ‘age’. It also reminds us of how far we’ve come……..wrinkles, grey hair and all 🙂

    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      Actually, I like my age… EXCEPT for the aches and pains. Heck, I even like my white hair. I always wanted to be a blond… NOW, I am! 😉 Btw, it turns out I learned more… there will be a Part 11.

  4. TJ Bren says:

    Great story, Sis!

    Maybe you could send your unwanted suitors my way…! Now, THAT would be a story!

  5. Patty says:

    Gwynn, you should have told this young man about all the dating websites. Lots of people have found their ‘soul mates’ this way! 🙂

    What a very flattering proposal though.

    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      Patty, it turns out there is a Part II to this story. After my friends read this story, I learned that this guy approached two of my other older friends too. He is looking for a Sugar -momma… an older woman with money to take care of him and his daughter. He is a predator. I’m going to encourage my friends to report him to Facebook as I don’t remember his name. This guy is why many of my friends won’t have anything to do with Facebook.

  6. EC Murray says:

    Gwynn-What a kick! I wonder if he was really a young boy!

    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      Ohhhhh Wait until Part II!! I won’t say any more. But it is QUITE INTERESTING!! Thanks for stopping by to comment Elizabeth. Now I’ll go see if I can find the “follow me” widget. Thanks Gwynn

  7. patgarcia says:


    Very interesting story. It shows you’re never too old. I read a book by Gail Sheehy over older women and their love lives. I don’t think that a woman has to put limitations on her life.

    So, I enjoyed the fact that the man found you attractive.


    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      I am still laughing Pat, as I don’t know whether he found the “real” me attractive OR the “me” of the past. However, after learning that he was “hitting” on other older women, he definitely had some bizarre idea up his sleeve.

      Still I don’t believe there has to be an age-limit on being considered attractive or fun to be around. Honesty is preferable though.

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