Insecure Writer’s Support Group

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Good morning, all,

It’s the first Wednesday in the month and IWSG Time has come around again.

I thank Alex Cavanaugh for creating the group and my friend, Patricia Garcia, for inviting me to join.

Currently, I’ve been overwhelmed as I have just completed April’s A to Z Blogger’s Challenge. This year is the first time that I disclosed a theme, Caregiving, as I am in the midst of caring for my sick husband.  To add to the fun, I’m also literally in the process of moving.  I’m a split personality as I’m here, my books are there, and I have no idea of where I’m going to put the rest of my belongings.  There is some light at the end of the tunnel as we will complete our move May 14th.  Wish me luck at finding anything!

In the process, our cable company turned off our cable as we could not get it through their heads that we needed cable at both residents.  Fortunately, I was without the use of my computer after the April Challenge.

Writing for the Challenge helped me process my thinking.  I started out by whining or expressing my emotions as I was going nuts.  I guess I needed the outlet. Eventually, I realized what I was doing, and worked at providing more information about the caregiving process, as it is not as simplistic as some people might imagine.  Being open and real is highly important to me, in my writing.  With a husband and wife, part of the caregiving process is dealing with our emotions… what are they and why are they suddenly appearing.  There is also the process… running up and down stairs for meds and foods.  I also had to deal with my husband’s passing out and taking him to Urgent Care because of the damage he did to his body in his falls.

Now, as my husband becomes healthier, the dynamics change somewhat.  I have relief from some of my work as my husband can help care for himself now.  It has been four long months and I’m very tired, but relief is in sight.

I still need to analyze my caregiving process more thoroughly so that I can clearly show people what I experienced.  But the Challenge was a great start for me as it made me think.

Amazingly, I survived the Challenge.  My writing is beginning to take form.  My husband survived my caregiving, and like the Little Engine that Could, I’m still chugging up that hill moving boxes to our new home.

This has been quite a process for me to be a caregiver, write, and move all at the same time. I so dearly appreciate all the support I received.  Thank you from the bottom of my heart!





About Gwynn Rogers

After 20 years of sales and marketing experience in the fields of real estate, high tech, and corporate travel, Gwynn has moved on to the career of “Grandma.” When not teaching her granddaughters an extensive vocabulary of “alley-oop-boop, ups-a-daisy, cowabunga or bummer”, Gwynn can be found hunting for mentors for the Kitsap Youth Mentoring Consortium, or chasing her fantasies on her treadmill. Gwynn currently freelances for magazines.
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15 Responses to Insecure Writer’s Support Group

  1. betty says:

    I had to laugh about the cable company. You weren’t “reinventing the wheel” with what you wanted with cable at both places; you would think they would have wanted the money for that overlap period of time.

    Good that it seems that it is coming together. I remember telling hubby after our recent move “I know I packed it, I just don’t know where it is at.” Thankfully in time things get unpacked and things fall into place.

    And the end is in sight!


    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      Betty, now I’m laughing. I too will be looking high and low for things. I can so relate to your comment I “just know, I packed it, but WHERE is it?” Heck, it will be like Christmas, as there will be a surprise in every box!

      I can hardly wait until I’m settled.

      The cable company was awful to work with as I couldn’t understand what they said. Also, they have no clue of what customer service is there days!

      Congratulations surviving your move AND the A to Z Blogger’s Challenge!

  2. pat garcia says:

    Yipeee!!!! I am so happy to hear those beautiful words, “My writing is beginning to take form.” I am so proud of you. You have indeed come a long way, Ms. Writer. Welcome to the club.


    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      Pat, dear one, I have a LONG WAY to go with my writing before I catch up with you! You truly are an inspiration. I’m lucky to have you as a friend!

      Keep up your dynamite work too!!


  3. Caregiving is not simplistic — wow, you can say that again, Gwynn, and again.

    “Being open and real is highly important to me, in my writing,” you say. I agree. What one writes has to be truth. And, you are doing so very well at this, Gwynn. Such a well-written and beautifully crafted essay here.


    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      Some of the stories I hear about paid Caregivers scare me as I think the Caregiver expects to simply sit there and watch the sick person. My experience was not like that at all, and I don’t imagine your experience, Samantha, was sitting around simply watching your mother either.

      I learned that being related to the person being nursed involves numerous emotions. Sometimes, buried emotions like anger or sadness are revived in the Caregiving process and then we have to effectively and efficiently deal with those emotions. Hopes and dreams can fall in the mud too. Caregiving encompasses far more dynamics than we expect to deal with, sometimes.

      I didn’t thoroughly express myself in the Challenge as I was still caught up in a great deal of black emotion. I’m just now realizing this too. Caregiving is definitely a UNIQUE process!!

      Thanks for your kind comments and your delightful support!

      • All true, Gwynn. I was lucky enough — my mother and I were — to find in the end some genuinely concerned healthcare aides, and, of course, my hospice team, who among other things, patiently listened to my rants. And then we’d laugh.

  4. Glad your husband is starting to get better. That can be tough. And cutting off your cable? Ugh. The cable company can be so irritating.

    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      The cable company is especially frustrating when you can’t understand what the person on the other end of the line is saying! I don’t think they understand me either! At least I had my computer through April.

      Thanks for your wishes for my husband. He is doing a bit better. I HOPE he becomes completely well! My fingers are crossed.

  5. You had an amazing April. I think I would have caved under all that.

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    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      Actually, I’m very amazed that I didn’t do a face-plant under the pressure. I even thought maybe I’d lost a few marbles! Come to think of it… if you see any stray marbles rolling around, I think they are mine!

      Thanks for your delightful comment!

    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      I couldn’t leave a comment on your blog. I thought your activities and mindset are inspiring. I REALLY loved Keith Urban’s quote too. I had basically stopped trying to publish my stories as I was not finding magazines that matched my style and interests. Oh yes, they don’t pay very much either. I need to get back in the saddle and continue to make an effort. Thanks.

  6. Gulara says:

    Your writing definitely took off during the challenge, Gwynn. Your posts were strong and consistent and I loved how you worked through your pain and distress transforming your own and John’s lives along the way. Big hugs.

    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      Oh THANK YOU SO MUCH, Gulara. Fortunately, the lightbulb went on in my head that I needed to change what I was doing. I had started my list of words back when the time was pretty bleak. Often times I wrote two posts, to get past the pain.

      Today, I met my new grandson, born May. Brayden Thomas Peterson. I’ll forward a picture as I bought him something to remind him of his Norwegian Heritage. You’ll laugh. Today was a FABULOUS Mother’s Day!! 😉 Big hugs!

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