J – Journey


“Something suggesting travel or passage from one place to another…like from childhood through adolescence to maturity”    Peter Marin

“Lose yourself to find yourself.  Some of the most important journeys we can make are the ones that, in purely physical terms, don’t lead anywhere in particular.” Lyn Webster Wilde


When people talk of a journey instantaneously our minds visualize a trip to Europe, Hawaii, or some exotic place.  Heck, I always dreamed of taking a photojournalism journey around the United States to the small, out-of-the-way hometowns like on the old television show Route 66.  I love history and seeing real, everyday life of the people on the streets.  But there are other forms of journeys such as growing up or experiencing traumatic events in life and “getting through” them.  Plus, there is the journey of a married relationship and walking hand-in-hand through the trials and tribulations of everyday life without killing one another.  But to me one of the more critical journeys is the one we take in learning who we are as individuals.

Now, I’m curious. How did you choose to get through your life?  What choices did you make, and were they the right ones for you?  Actually, did YOU make the choices for your life or were they made for you? What mistakes did you make? If we had a “REDO” button, would you hit it?  I know my journey was down a long, windy road covered with a lot of potholes.  Did I happen to see you on that road at one time?

Unfortunately there are no “guide” books for parents in order for them to successfully guide us through the process of growing up.  Also, often a child has their own idea of how they want to grow up and it doesn’t match the parent’s visions.  Too often a parent will say “it is MY WAY or the highway!”   Unfortunately “MY WAY” may not match what the child loves, their abilities, and their personality style. When there are misunderstandings or contradictory viewpoints about who a child should become sometimes that child ends up in a “black hole” until they can take a firm grasp of their own life and re-route their journey.  

Having seen the inside of that “black hole” myself, I have volunteered for a variety of schools and organizations that work to help kids find a direction that works for them.  There are a lot of kids out there who need support.

Now that I’m opening up to the world, I’m blooming, and drawing more people into my life.  Sadly, it might be better late than never, but it does feel wonderful.  In this case, my journey was a very long windy road. However, now I’ve found the end of the rainbow… my friends are my “pot of gold.”



About Gwynn Rogers

After 20 years of sales and marketing experience in the fields of real estate, high tech, and corporate travel, Gwynn has moved on to the career of “Grandma.” When not teaching her granddaughters an extensive vocabulary of “alley-oop-boop, ups-a-daisy, cowabunga or bummer”, Gwynn can be found hunting for mentors for the Kitsap Youth Mentoring Consortium, or chasing her fantasies on her treadmill. Gwynn currently freelances for magazines.
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17 Responses to J – Journey

  1. pat garcia says:

    It is so nice to come to the realisation that my journey, my dreams, my goals, might not be the same as my children, or friends, or relatives and to accept those differences. You have found that out and because of that you have opened yourself up to new experiences and enlarged your world.
    That is a very nice feeling that I hope you are enjoying.

    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      It is a struggle enlarging my world as there is so much more I SHOULD have done. I did make a couple of mistakes that are impacting my world now. However, like a mole I will tunnel my way into the light… I’m determined. In the meantime I have wonderful friends like you to nudge me or kick me in the butt depending on the method needed. Learning to step-off on one’s own is a valuable experience and YOU, my dear friend, are a fabulous example. Thank you for being in my life!

      • Gwynn Rogers says:

        Hi Pat, it’s me again. Say, your blog won’t let me publish my comments. It is something about my URL. Typically, I write the http:// before my Gwynn’s Grit and Grin.com. Has the format changed? Also, I thought I signed up to follow you, but I’m still not receiving posts from your blog. Your blog and mine both are cantankerous! 😉

  2. Part of my journey was to become a stepparent at age 46 to two teenagers. I had no idea what I was doing, but I wanted to help them with their own life journey without imposing my will on them — I knew that much. It wasn’t easy, but they are almost 27 now and both are doing well. It’s been a wild ride!

    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      Nadine, I’m applauding. Taking on teenagers is a tough age as their developmental role in life is to become independent from parents. Too many people try to smother teenagers… so CONGRATULATIONS!! Take a bow! No, dealing with hurt teenagers is especially tough, so to see them shine is special! Good for you!

  3. My mom tried to pick my journey for me. I’m just as stubborn as she is and I chose my journey myself. She may not like (and she doesn’t) but hey, it’s mine.

    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      Charlie, I applaud you for sticking to your guns. It is important to be who you are. Sadly, it took for my mom to pass away for me to start blooming… better late than never. My brother rebelled from the time he came out of the chute. Too bad I didn’t learn more from my younger brother.

      Go bloom and grow with wisdom and caring. Enjoy your friends along the way!

  4. suzanne says:

    My journey has been very up and down, and made a few mistakes along the way. But I think my children’s journey has been easier so far than mine (well, mostly!) and I hope it stays that way for them 🙂 x

    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      Hi Suzanne, I suspect everyone’s journey has a few pot holes… that’s life. The GREAT news is that you are making life easier for your children. I too have worked at helping my kids. I love the way they have grown up. Thanks for stopping by to comment. Have a delightful journey! 😉

  5. Susan Scott says:

    A lovely post Gwynn thank you. The quotes too … All sorts of journeys as you say, growing up, being married, a parent many more and yet more to come as we travel on this called life, being and embracing more of who we are even when potholes spring up before our very eyes.

    ‘But to me one of the more critical journeys is the one we take in learning who we are as individuals’. For me that was the most important and poignant sentence of your post.

    Forget the ‘shoulds’ ..

    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      Forgetting the “shoulds” in life is tough for me. I am pretty programmed. However, slowly I’m opening up and blooming. To walk and talk brightens my day, especially when my back cooperates! You will laugh when we get to “Q”… I’m Queen of Poulsbo. I always wanted to be a queen! 😉 See, life is an interesting journey… particularly as an individual.

  6. “Losing yourself to find yourself” — wise advice. I will think with this. And, I believe we do have a REDO button — those mistakes being opportunities for take twos; but I am impatient — I just want to click on it, highlight it and type over it in that instant.

    Oh, well,” better late than rushed” is my motto.

    And, what Patricia said above, essentially that you are commended, Gwynn, for having the courage to step off your comfortable lily pad into the unknown. I am so fortunate to have you and the otter Roos as friends — three years now, can you believe it?

    Thank you.

    • Oh, and three of us Roos wrote our A-Z posts today on “Journey.” We are connected and in synch.

    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      Yes, we do have a “REDO” button, it is just that it took me a while to figure out how to operate it. Then like you, I want INSTANTANEOUS change… POOF!

      WOW!! Three years! Actually, it is longer because your group formed prior to your mom’s death. I don’t remember how much longer we have known one another. Of course you and I probably passed one another on Camino de las Colinas or the Strand or at the Bank of America when I worked there.

      There is a reason for us coming together and I like it. I definitely have a LOT to learn from all of you, but I’m blessed to have you as my friend and support system. Join me on my journey! 😉

  7. You have captured very well what motivates me to be a therapist–I’m so interested in what makes a person tick, and in helping them along their journey.


    • Gwynn Rogers says:

      Hi Lorrie, Thank you for stopping by to comment. Actually, I spent nearly eight years, on and off, in group counseling to help me deal with my family experiences. The strange part is that my parents weren’t physically out and out abusive like some parents, but their mindset was abusive. They truly did not have a parent’s guidebook for raising children… AND they didn’t believe in counseling.

      Consequently, I do understand both sides of the road. I find my brain works like a percolating coffee pot… it needs time to work through stuff. The journey for each of us can be interesting. I’m learning the impact of peri-natal and prenatal trauma on our lives too. Life offers a buffet of options.

      I’m delighted to hear that you enjoy being a therapist. Thanks for helping people.

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